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Becoming Chelsea Fagan





Episode 5 of The Becoming Podcast is "Becoming Chelsea Fagan". Chelsea is co-founder of The Financial Diet, a site dedicated to talking about personal finance - because let's face it, nobody else wants to. Fun, engaged, and whip-smart, Chelsea has an unmistakable voice and is one of my favourite ever Twitter follows.

Here, she discusses financial security, being a former "hot mess", betraying feminism and freaking people out by talking cash.

Wise and insightful and frank things Chelsea says include:

“During one era, I was fired from every job I had”

“I think it has to be less about career and more about being able to take care of myself..."

“I felt like being financially supported for a while was a betrayal of feminist values”

“Sincerity is not the internet’s language”

“It’s really hard to be cool or disaffected about money…”

“If you think about a choice you made, or something you did, and you don’t want to talk about it… it’s so important to look at why”

"You have to be able to own poor choices without them defining you”

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My Name

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This is a blog post about seeing myself called a “cum dumpster” in ten different languages, on fifty different websites, right beside years-old photographs of me taken in a bikini, lifted from the archives of my Instagram. It starts with a 6 a.m. email, read in my best friend’s bed in Ditmas Park, Brooklyn.

“They want to serialise the book!” I whisper, wide-awake with a body clock set to London. She rubs her Eastern Standard Time eyes and rolls over. “That’s great,” she begins, hoarse with sleep. “What… what does that mean?”

Serialisation is when a newspaper – their features pages or, if you’re really lucky, one of their glossy weekend supplements – print a section of your manuscript. I’d had my fingers crossed that it might happen. What I wanted more than anything was one of the red tops to pick it up – one of the tabloids. I wanted a paper that middle England reads to talk about BECOMING. An “every woman” paper. I’d already written for a glossy mag and a fancy broadsheet about it. Tabloids were next on my list. My only stipulation to the book’s publicist had been: not the Daily Mail. I will do anything for love, but I won’t do that. I will do anything to tell people about my book, but I will not do a deal with that particular devil. We all know why. 
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A Night To Remember

photo via @amyadventures_

 “Laura,” my brother said, reappearing after a brief absence. “Dad’s taken all your mates to the pub. You might… well. Come on.”

I understood the spaces between his words but I didn’t want to leave. Because. Because, if I left it would be over, and it was everything I wanted it to be – had dreamt it would be, for farther back than I can remember – and to stand there, just a few moments more, meant it was still happening. I was still on the third floor of Hatchard’s Piccadilly, booksellers to the Queen, surrounded by piles of a book that I wrote. If I lingered a little longer, I was still at my book launch.

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I don’t know what I am proudest of, the book or that one hundred separate bodies approached me over the course of the night to say, “Wow. You know so many incredible people!” That is true – I do know so many incredible people. I know so many incredible people that the girls from the publishing house told my parents, book parties aren’t normally like this. There’s not normally this much life. I was humbled and in awe at the calibre of generous, kind, genuinely-excited-for-me people in that room. The way they all made friends with each other and laughed and clicked glasses and, if I’m honest, glanced in my direction a lot, looking at me from the other side of the room, letting me know yes, you! We’re talking about you!
  
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Becoming Alice Judge-Talbot





Episode 4 of The Becoming Podcast is "Becoming Alice Judge Talbot" - blogger, digital consultant, Telegraph columnist and one-time swimwear model, Alice is one of my favourite people to have dinner with.

We talk about independence after heartbreak, post-natal depression and anxiety, the struggle to take advice, online dating and what it takes to finally find love again – especially when you’ve already got kids – and loneliness.

Heart-warming and lovely and insightful things Alice says include:

“I never thought I had to be strong… you just get on with it. You do it.”

“It’s important that I still go out there and find myself. I can’t limit myself because I’m in my thirties and have two children.”

“You have to learn yourself again without somebody there at your side. It’s like being reborn.”

“The me that goes on a date is different to the me who blogs.”

“Saying you need help is much braver than plodding on and refusing to ask for help.”

“Becoming yourself is a constant thing. It never stops.”

You can find Alice on her blog, Instagram, and Twitter.

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What is your relationship with heartbreak and single life like? Tell me on Twitter using #thisismybecoming, or email me up to 1,000 words for the chance to tell your story here on Superlatively Rude. I’m on laura@superlativelyrude.com and will host my favourites over the next few months 
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The Becoming Podcast theme music is by the incomparable Charlotte Carpenter, from her forthcoming EP How Are We Ever To Know
Oh - and don't forget to pre-order your copy of Becoming! It's down from £16.99 to £12.85 here.
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